Ex•hi•bi•tion•ism
-noun
1. A tendency to display one's abilities or to behave in such a way as to attract attention. The act or practice of behaving so as to attract attention to oneself usually by exposing ones genitals.
2. Psychiatry- A disorder characterized especially by a compulsion to exhibit the genitals in public. A perversion in which sexual gratification is obtained from the indecent exposure of oneself (as to a stranger)
The best way to describe the first definition is to relate it to common practices and behaviors. Like for example; a girl that flashes her breasts at Mardi Gras in order to obtain Mardi Gras beads and attention from onlookers. The second definition suggests that exhibitionism is a psychological disorder. For example; indecent exposure, involves the same sorts of exposure, but done in a threatening manner or in a manner perceived by those being exposed-to as threatening. Like a male flasher whom exposes himself to women or children. (pervert) Below are various types of behavior that can be classified as exhibitionism:
Anasyrma: the lifting of the skirt when not wearing underwear, to expose genitals. (Like most female celebrities. Britney Spears, Paris Hilton etc we've all seen their pink tacos.)
Flashing: chiefly the momentary display of bare female breasts by a woman with an up-and-down lifting of the shirt and/or bra. (Like on the Girls Gone Wild videos) It can also involve the exposure of a man's or woman's genitalia. (Ew vagina! It's like a dark scary cave!) Jeffy states "Straight guys will drop trou quick in a 'I'm in an effin hurry.' Though it's usually done as a joke, not sexual. I think it depends on how comfortable the guy is."
Martymachlia: a paraphilia which involves sexual attraction to having others watch the execution of a sexual act. (Like Public Sex while people are watching. See the post '
You Wanna Do It Here?')Mooning: the display of bare buttocks by pulling down of trousers and underwear. There tends to be a gendered double standard here: with straight males, the act is most often done for the sake of humor, or mockery than for sexual excitement. With females sexual arousal (or at least sexual attention) of those mooned is the intent. (Let's be honest we have all mooned someone at least once in our lives.) I'm mooning all of you right now. Yes this is my ass.
Streaking: the act of running nude through a public place. (Like sporting arenas. This is mostly done by males. Nothing like a swaying pork sword in the wind. As Nell would say "Swayin' in da win'!")Candaulism: when a person exposes his/her partner in a sexually explicit manner. (Like exposing your partners genitals in front of strangers or friends. Also by showing naked pictures of your partner to others. Either in a way to brag or to bring about sexual arousal. "My Boyfriend has a bigger cock than yours!")
I would consider most gay males to be exhibitionists. It has to do with the fact that guys in general are visional creatures. Naked bodies usually turn us on unless of course they look like Fat Bastard from Austin Powers. (But then again there's chubby chasers so I guess I can't really say that. To each their own.)
At gay bars where it's primarily men it's common for you to see a wang or two. It's like a game of peek a boo sometimes. Kevin once showed me his in the bathroom he of course was completely smashed and I told him to put it away. Also one time he showed a friend of ours his jack-off video he made on his phone. That then turned into his phone being passed around for everyone to see. One time James asked Steve what he could do in order to get out of paying his bar tab......cut to James whipping out his anaconda on the bar. Like magic our bar tab just disappeared. The bar even has wet underwear contests; where the guys that entered in it have to wear these ultra thin white boxers and are completely hosed down with water! The last wet underwear contest I saw, a big built black man won, go figure. He did look like he could rearrange someones insides.
The world of smart phones have brought exhibitionism to new heights. On Apps like Grindr it's common practice to say hello with your penis. I can't tell you how many times that a guy has messaged me and instead of saying "Hello, How are you?" I get a dick picture. I always end up blocking them but if it's a really nice one I may save it to post on here later! Haha! (Side-note: be careful what you send me because if I don't like you I'm gonna show the world.)
The iPhone even has its own cult following of exhibitionists, the website of mostly sexy men, Guys With iPhones.
DJ Pauly D from MTV's The Jersey Shore
The website states it's "Powered by a love for hot men who appreciate the finer gadgets in life." If you go on the site you'll surely see what they mean.
Guys With IPhones features of course men with iPhones (I know duh, right) and comments that people can leave on each picture. Their only requirement to post a picture on the site is; you have to have an iPhone in the picture and there has to be a guy in the picture. Pretty much anything else goes. What's the most common picture on the site? The pic of a naked guy in his bathroom, standing in front of the mirror, holding his iPhone in one hand and letting his Yankee Doodle dangle.
Personally I love Guys With iPhones it's very entertaining. Be prepared to spend at least an hour though looking at the pictures of sexy men (laughing at the funny ones) and reading all the horny driven ridiculous comments. The comments really are the best part of it sometimes. Although most of the photo submissions aren't what you call "classy" Guys With iPhones itself makes exhibitionism classy and I will always be a viewer.
Sexting seems to be taking over lately. Sexting is the act of sending sexually explicit messages or photographs, between mobile phones. It brings exhibitionism easily to your eyes. I have sexted before with Edward and a little bit with Knockers. Recently Bobby and I discovered a new pass time I'd like to call Twexting! Twexting is the act of sending sexually explicit messages or photographs, through Twitter. I'll be honest I am currently Twexting with someone. I do consider this an act on exhibitionism. Even though we have never exchanged sexually explicit photographs (yet) the content of the messages is still rather exposing and attracts attention to oneself. Here's an example of a message he sent me: "Then I start pumping. Pumping that tight ass because If your gonna cum It's gonna be when I say and I say now. I pull your body even closer. I can feel your cock reacting to the friction between our bodies. And then you..." Ok that's all you're getting the rest is private but you get the idea.
Saturday night Bobby and I went to the Takeover event at the Stonewall. They were doing a Mr. Takeover 2011 contest. It's kinda like a beauty pageant with homos. The contestants were mostly a bunch of 20 something year old Twinks with 0% body fat. Some of them looked like they desperately needed to eat a cheeseburger. I'm sorry but are we in Ethiopia? One contestant looked like he was possibly close to forty the poor soul didn't stand a chance. Bobby, Kile and I stayed upstairs as long as we could. Bobby was more content in actually watching the sports play on the tv than he was in going downstairs and witnessing this display of twinkness. Bobby, Kile, Derek and I stood back a bit from the stage. I didn't want to get to close to the stage in fear that if they opened their mouths wide enough a penis would fall out and smack me. You could call the contestants exhibitionists after all they are running around on stage in their underwear for not only a chance to win $300 but also for attention. During the underwear portion of the show some of the boys seriously looked like their mama picked out their underwear. It was like K-mart granny panty with their names written in the waist band kind of underwear. My gorgeous friend Derek and I were chatting back and forth about the show. I asked him as I lightly tug on his shirt and pull on his jeans. "So boo what ya got under there" He laughs and said, "Spanx!" So who won the Mr. Takeover Contest? As I had predicted a 20 something year old twink with 0% body fat. Ritchie (Who is actually a really nice guy.) won first place and Joshie won runner up. Apparently an "ie" at the end of your name means you're a winner! You can't tell from this picture but Ritchie is literally all ass. He has some booty on him I must say. All hail the queen of the bottoms! BUT seriously guys congratulations!
After the contest I hung out at the bar with my friend Sam (For background story on Sam please read the post '
Forty And Fabulous?') and his friend from out of town Shane. Shane was tall and good looking. He was downing hypnotic shots like they were going out of style. Sam was telling me about his sexcapades he had the night before. He said he met the guy on Grindr. (of course!) He told me the guy actually had a boyfriend. I of course yelled at Sam, "YOU just ended a relationship with someone because THEY cheated on you and here you are willingly helping someone else cheat on their boyfriend!! That is so fucked up!" He replied, "I know, I know" and continued to tell me about it anyways. Sam said he bottomed for the guy which is something he hadn't done in a long time. Sam said in his pervious relationship he was always the top (and this is where he goes on to boast) "Because I'm well endowed." At this point Sam reaches for his phone and pulls up a picture of his cock and continues to show me. I laugh at him at say, "I've seen it before. Don't you remember on your birthday you kept sending it to me saying "You know you want it!" over and over?!" He laughed and said, "No!" Shane was listening to our whole conversation. He grabbed Sam's phone and said, "Yeah you sent me a pic of that scary looking cock before. That isn't a big a cock this is." Shane pulls out his phone and pulls up a picture of his cock and shows me. Shane was right it looked bigger and was prettier. I think in an effort to get a rise out of Sam, Shane grabbed me and pulled me up close to him. He kissed me. Realizing how insanely drunk he was I pulled away, but him of course being bigger than me, I didn't have much choice. He then continued to nibble on my neck and ear lobes. I could sense Sam was getting jealous. Not a second after Shane let me go I felt someone humping me from behind. Seriously what the fuck is going on here?! I'm like a female dog in heat letting out a smell to attract these guys! It turns out it was just an extremely drunk Harold. He whispered in my ear that I should have entered the contest and kept continuing to try to hump me. I said, "How drunk are you?" His glassy eyes looked at me and said, "You think I'm drunk?" My response, "Does a bear shit in the woods?!" I think he thought possibly he was turning me on, but seriously as he tried to hump me all I felt was his beer belly rubbing up against my booty. Yeah that's really hot! (*rolls eyes)
So why are most gay men exhibitionists? As you read up above it was no problem at all for Sam and Shane to show off their Cocks and trust me I have seen many other friends as well. I believe gay men do it for the attention purposes and for the ego boost. It's the equivalent of a female showing off her boobs or posing for Play Boy. If you got it, flaunt it. Rock out with your cock out.
