Dear J,
I would call myself a "Reformed Whore." When I was younger I used to sleep with everyone. My numbers are probably up in the 100's and I had a new so called "boyfriend" every couple of weeks. I'm now alittle older and have met the man I want forever! We are in a committed monogamous relationship. We saw previews for that movie "What's Your Number?" and he asked me what mine was. I was reluctant to tell him and I changed the subject. I am ashamed of my promiscuous past! My boyfriend has asked me a couple times now "what my number is" and each time I come up with excuses not to say. Because he doesn't have a "colorful" past, I fear I will lose him if he finds out mine! What should I do?
Dear Reformed Whore,
You can't run from this topic or the past, but the past is the past! What you did when you where younger actually shaped who you are now. You learned and grew from your past relationships or tricks. Sowing your wild oats prepared you for this relationship now.
My advice is to be completely honest with your boyfriend. Chances are is if you keep averting the subject he will become suspicious. Being shady about certain things could make him question, “What else is he hiding from me." and you don't want that. I know it's hard to tell the one you love that you once let every Oompa Loompa in your chocolate factory. BUT trust me it's best he hear it from you that you rode every Sit~N~Spin. You don't want some jealous angry mo you once slept with telling him all your dirty secrets.
Kevin and I actually had this "What's your number" discussion a couple weeks ago. When I asked him (I was just being curious.) he said, “Well what do you count?” I first said only anal and he easy remembered how many and it was a small number. Then I said, “What if we counted oral?” His response was he would have to "try" to figure it out by year! And asked me if straight guys counted! Kevin says he can turn people on to anything! Sarah Michelle Gellar, Ashley Tisdale, his dick! So when you talk to your boyfriend you have to make sure you know clearly what he would count as sex. Who knows maybe you weren't as big of a whore as you thought you were! Maybe you just left your mouth open and their penises just fell in. Who's to say?
Remember honestly is the best policy. He loves you for you as you are now! Plus all that sex helped hone your toe curling technique and who doesn't love that? Oh and remember a nice dinner and flowers helps to smooth things over.
Good luck! And always make good decisions,
J
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