PrEP by Walter Moore

PrEP stands for “Pre-exposure Prophylaxis” and is a measure that has recently been approved for HIV- individuals to take, that are at a high risk of contracting HIV, to lower the risk of them contracting HIV. Whether it is from being very sexually active or for those who are negative and in a relationship with someone who is positive. 

I bring up PrEP (which the medication given is Truvada) because, although I am not at this current time in a relationship with an HIV+ guy, I am in love with an HIV+ guy. He is in love with me too. 

We are not officially together, because I believe we are both afraid that the other won’t be around a year from now. Taking the step to get on this medication is my way of showing him that I am dedicated. I want to be around here a year from now… even 10 years from now. 

As a gay man, I think the idea of having a medication that can lower the risk of catching HIV is amazing! As a gay man, I love the fact that there have been so many advances in medicine that can extend the lives of HIV+ individuals to normal a length. 

I am negative. I get tested every 3 months and recommend everyone do so! Especially those who deal with sex addiction, as I do. Let’s get serious for a moment, okay? Being that we are gay MEN, are we not horny a lot, if not all of the time. It’s time we accept the fact that we are all horny too much for our own good. 

I mean I am 24 and my numbers are in the 100’s! There are many reasons as to why I have had sex with some many different guys, but you can read about that another time. 

I’m sure a lot of you are reading this thinking, “Damn ‘in the 100’s’? You’re a whore!” And you’re right, partially. But now I’m not, I have dealt with my demons and bottles that have caused me to think I need to have sex a lot to feel wanted. 

Since you’re probably reading this and thinking negatively about me, I am writing this and thinking are you able to judge me? Are you perfect? Have you had sex with one person and only that one person? Have you only had sex with your boyfriends? If that’s so, answer this question for yourself, have you had many boyfriends? And how many people have they had sex with? Once you think of it like that, it gets somewhat scary doesn’t it?

That is why I think Truvada for negative people is an AMAZING idea! Now it’s not 100% a guarantee to keep you from becoming positive. That’s because nothing in the medical field (which I work in) is 100% every time. Every medication works and affects each person differently.

However, isn't it worth a try? I’m sure at least one of you is like me, in love with someone who is positive while you’re negative or vice versa. I think this drug is worth it, so should you. 

If you want to look into it, the CDC has lots of information about it, but a couple of specific links you can check out our:

http://myprepexperience.blogspot.com

http://www.projectinform.org/prep

You can also check out my blog at http://realmidwestgay.blogspot.com to see how my experience with it goes when I get started. 

Thanks for reading everyone! Have a great day, a blessed holidays, be safe, and don’t forget to tell your loved ones you love them every day!

Written by ~Walter Moore

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Like A Virgin

"Like a virgin, touched for the very time..." echoes in the club as I'm pushed to the stage. At this point I'm beyond drunk and a couple friends have to hold me upright. My friend, Toni is on stage announcing to everyone that it's my 21st birthday, while pointing at me. More than half the people in this gay bar, in the middle of bumble fuck already know it's my birthday and that's why they are here. The few stragglers that had no clue, actually came over to say "Happy Birthday" and to buy "the 21 year old" a drink or shot. Like I needed more, but you're only 21 once. Why do people say that anyways? You're only any age once.
Most of the people at my party I knew from an online chat room called "Gay PA." (This is how I actually starting talking to my best friend James.) I had a WebTV back then. It was a DVD player-sized box that plugged into your TV and a phone jack to connect you to the Internet. I know it sounds retro and there was probably little gerbils inside the box, on a wheel making it work. WebTV had a remote control and a wireless keyboard you could use to surf around. It was perfect for chatting and for looking at nude pics of hot naked men in the middle of night while everyone else was asleep. I'm just saying, of course I never did that. (sarcasm)

Chat rooms were big back then and people from the Gay PA room occasionally all got together to party and to meet. I had met mostly everyone previously at a couple other events. The Gay PA chat room was actually my first real step into accepting myself as gay. I had people all over the state to talk too (most of them a lot older) and it helped to know I wasn't the only one struggling with their sexuality. It also helped I asked a lot questions about being gay. The older guys in the room took me under their fairy wings. Even though I hadn't known all these people long face to face, I chatted with them for months. I felt safe with these people. I knew their stories and for the very first time ever I felt accepted. They all knew me as the young, naive, nice, red headed virgin. Hence the reason "Like A Virgin" was playing. The guy I came with and who I was kinda dating, asked the DJ to play it.

As I sat there eating my red velvet cake that one of my online chat friends made for me, a very tall, very handsome man came up to me. I instantly knew who he was from the chat room. I have been talking to Alfredo for over a year, but since he lived in Erie (literally all the way across my state about 7 hours away.) I hadn't met him yet. He was around 29 when I first met him. He was very tall, but then again I'm not even quite 5'6 so everyone is tall. Alfredo had thick black hair and a nice lean, toned body. His background of course was 100% Italian, but unfortunately didn't have the accent. I only caught hints of it as he spoke. He looked very manly with his facial stubble, mustache and chest hair protruding out from the collar of his polo shirt. He was extremely polite and charming, which I assumed he would be from us chatting, but you never know. After opening my presents (Toni got me a pink kneeling pad she said I may need it some day. I actually still have it!) and tearful goodbyes we all parted ways.

2 years go by and yes I was still a virgin! Like some, I was waiting for the right one to pop my cherry. My mom like many mothers always said, "Nobody's gonna buy the milk if you're giving it out for free." I had only dated a few guys and none of them were Mr. Right. It felt like it was just a sea of men that wanted to hook up. Once they discovered it took a little more effort before I'd let them swim into my ocean (still does) they gave up the chase. I had this romanticized vision of how I wanted my first time to be, so I "saved it" like the Holy Grail! I didn't need to be in love, but I wanted to at least have some sort of emotional connection. I wanted to feel safe and look back on it fondly, not with regret.

Alfredo and I still kept in touch periodically through that two year span. His twin sister had moved out my way and he planned to stop by to visit me on his way back for a couple days. When I finally saw him again he still looked the same. Still tall, dark and handsome with puppy dog eyes and a beautiful smile. I had changed and he remarked how great I looked. I was about 110 pounds, tan, (thanks to the indoor tanning beds) with a nice six pack. (which showed because I was so small) I go-go danced at a bar in New Hope once a week and was a shooter boy the rest of the time. I may been naive when it came to the whole sex thing, but I had flirting with men down. Heck, that's how I earned my tips at the bar. Dancing on top of a box for 5 plus hours and working out every week did my body good. I couldn't put on weight to save my life but I was nicely toned. I was a Twink! A thin 26 inch waisted Twink! Alfredo was amazed by my transformation and he kept staring at me with a goofy smile.

Our plan for the evening was to go to the bar I worked at. It was a Sunday night and that was drag night. I worked there mostly Fridays and the occasional Saturday so I had no idea what Sunday's were like. Alfredo took me out for dinner and actually wanted to stay in New Hope. This way we could drink and not worry about driving all the way home. Plus at the time I still lived at home and he didn't want a bad first impression with my mom. There was a Best Western right before you actually got to the bar so Alfredo got us a room there.

The bar wasn't busy but I recognized a few faces. They came up to me to say hello and were shocked I had clothes on. After a bunch of vodka and Sprites and a few martinis mixed in, we stumbled back to the Best Western. The room was small. The bed spread had this ugly floral design. It looked like a florist threw up and the carpet was a dark navy color. There was a long dresser up against the wall and a TV sitting on top of it in the corner. It wasn't the fanciest room but hey it was a Best Western not the Hilton! I got undressed and climbed into the bed I remember I only had black 2xist briefs on. Alfredo had on a wifebeater and blue boxers. He cuddled with me and spooned me under the covers. I could tell he was turned on because it was poking my back. Alfredo was a very respectful type of person and I knew he never would make the first move on me.

I thought to myself, "Ok this is it! I've waited long enough. There isn't going to be anyone nicer than him. I've known him for awhile, I trust him and he is fucking sexy!" I rolled over so I was facing him. He pretended to be asleep already. "Stop pretending! I know you're awake" I said. He opened his eyes slowly, "Yes Kitten?" he replied. (Alfredo always had cute nicknames for me, Kitten was one of them.) I leaned forward a bit and kissed him. This was the first time we really kissed and his mustache tickled my face. I was trying to hold back a giggle. Once Alfredo got the green light his inner animal took over. My black briefs were taken off and thrown across the room to disappear into the darkness.

I had talked to Alfredo for years online and we were quite close. We talked about everything. He had told me he wasn't into the whole anal sex thing and actually enjoyed oral more, especially giving it. He got off more on giving it to someone then actually getting it himself. As I took off his boxers I discovered something he had neglected to mention. Alfredo has a huge Italian Stromboli! It was massive and hairy. I could tell he kept it groomed so it wouldn't become a jungle, but he was obviously hairy and hairy everywhere! He just maintains it the best he can. I thought to myself, "Wow he must go through razors like crazy!" Alfredo climbed on top of me and kissed his way down. He said I tasted good. Like sweet and salty. It must have been the salt scrub I used while showering earlier. It tickled when he reached my navel and played with my belly button ring. I couldn't hold the giggles in. I'm very, very ticklish everywhere.

  Alfredo's hot mouth felt great on my penis. He knew what he doing and he did it very well. He could have sucked the nails out of a board. I wanted to reciprocate, but he was more interested in pleasing me. He was right, he did actually get off more by making me squirm. Even though he wasn't into the whole anal sex thing we played "just the tip" he stuck his beef thermometer in just enough so I felt a sensation, but not in far enough to take my temperature. He had more fun digitizing my love hole than anything. Between the sensation of his fingers and him alternating between blowing me and jacking me off, I came all over my stomach. He finished himself off after watching me, then got us a towel. We got under the covers and he spooned me again. He whispered, "Sleep well Kitten" in my ear and I passed out.

The next morning I awoke feeling a warm sensation. There Alfredo was again! He was going down on me and really going at it. Screw Folgers this was the best part of wakin' up! He made me cum two times that's how intense his blow jobs were and each time he swallowed. He was a real Hoover caught in a dust storm and I haven't had someone S my D that good since. When I finished he got up and walked to bathroom. I sat up on the bed gesturing him to come back over I figured I owed him at least a blow job. "It's your turn" I said with a grin. "I already came on the towel. (The towel was at the foot of the bed I guess in all my moaning I must have missed it.) That was enough for me" he said smiling. "I'm gonna get in the shower. Check out is at 11, figured I'd take ya out for breakfast then. I've had my protein but you haven't had anything" again he smiled. He looked like a little kid that just got caught stealing cookies from the cookie jar.

  I was hunting around the room for my underwear but couldn't find them. I picked the condom and wrapper off the floor, wrapped it in a tissue and threw it away. I didn't want the maid to get grossed out. Even though we didn't really have anal sex he still wore one to tease my hole. I looked around the room and saw a coffee maker next to the TV on top of the long dresser. I figured I'd attempt to make him coffee. It was of course the least I could do. He paid for the room, he blew me a few times. I owed him something. I put the grounds in the maker and poured the water in. When I flipped the switch nothing happened. "What the fuck!" I pulled on the cord and realized it wasn't plugged in. There was an outlet on the wall right behind the dresser. It must have been plugged in there. I grabbed the cord, but I couldn't quite reach the outlet so I attempted to move the dresser away from the wall a little. In my efforts, the dresser leaned forward too much which caused the TV sitting on it to fall forward. It was so heavy and knocked me on the floor.

There I was butt ass naked underneath a huge TV! I literally couldn't move! It had me completely pinned down and didn't even buy me dinner first! I didn't want to yell out in fear that someone else would hear me and barge into the room, you know like a maid or something. So I just laid there quietly waiting for Alfredo to come out of the shower. When he finally openned the door and appeared out of the corner of my eye he said, "What on earth are you doing?" I struggled a bit with the TV and said, "What's it look like? I'm making coffee!"

Having gotten to second base with a TV, my first gay sexual experience is one I will never forget. Alfredo and I hooked up a few more times after that whenever he came around to my area. I haven't seen him or heard from him in about 6 years though. The last time he was through I was dating someone else so we kept things on a just a "friend level." I liked the guy I was seeing and didn't want to mess it up. Plus I was starting to feel like Alfredo's out of town booty call. He was always very polite and very sweet. He never pressured me to do anything, but I wanted more and couldn't have that with him. The last time he was around my area I ignored the phone call.

To all the virgins out there: Know your limits and have a strong enough will to stop your partner from doing something you're not comfortable with. Some experts say that your first time actually sets the standard for your entire sex life. Hopefully it's one you remember fondly and not one you regret. By all means use a condom every time! If you are a late bloomer (like myself), try not to feel awkward. Hopefully your partner is sensitive to your inexperience and curiosity. If he doesn't seem that way then fuck him! (Not literally, get out of there!) You will most likely never forget your first time. I can still remember how his cologne smelt! Whether it's a hot one-night thing or the beginning of an ongoing relationship, you can still make the time sexy, fun and special. I hope that it will be a positive experience and you'll cherish the memory forever or at least learn something from it.

For more first time stories please see the post Touched For The Very First Time.
For tips on Anal Sex please see the post Bottomed Out.

Touched For The Very First Time

Below is a collection of first time gay sexual experiences.

Kevin's story:
"My first gay experience came a couple weeks after my High School graduation. Some kid from my class had a roommate he lived with in Bethlehem. It just so happened that his roommate was gay. This kid then set us up on a date. The gay roommate was black, and he was one of the first other gay people I had ever met. I took a chance and went to his place. I didn't have a car yet so my mom had to drive me there. Anyway we walked around town for a while then we went back to his place and started watching Will and Grace. I had never seen it before. As we watched TV he makes his moves and I give in of course. Next thing you know we are 69ing on his bed! He continued to give me head and I finally blew my load in his mouth. He wasn't a swallower, so he spit it into a can, in which he also kept his change in. Whatever happened with that change I don't know.

I call my mom who is on her way to pick me up and before I leave he throws me on the bed, pulls down my pants and just goes to town again!!! It was an experience I will never forget and the only black guy I was ever with."

  Bobby's story:
"When I was 17 I had just joined one of the online gay dating/hookup sites. I was working at a local grocery store at the time. One guy, a few years older than me had seen me cashiering there, and then messaged me online. He began to talk to me for about 2 months online. I started to recognize him when he came food shopping and even began speaking with him in person when he started coming through my checkout line.

Soon after we started speaking in person. He invited me over to his place one night after I got out of work. His parents were out of town and he knew I had absolutely no experience with guys (and being a gold star gay, no experience with girls either!), it wasnt a date. I was going for the pure reason to hookup with him. I was so nervous because I had to tell my mom some made up story about where I was going after work. I went to his house and I was shaking the entire time, even when we were sitting on the couch. He put his head on my chest/shoulder he could hear my heart pounding. Soon I was making out with him, and feeling him all over, clothes were coming off at this point. The one problem that I clearly remember is that we both wanted to do things to the other one more than getting things done to us (both givers, what can I tell you). So we kept pulling each other off of one another. He was very well hung so naturally I was drawn to it the entire time we were hooking up.

To this day he was probably the best head I have ever recieved, he had very pouty lips (very similair to mine, which I know contributed to his amazing ability). I was very nervous and couldn't hold out as long as I wanted too. He shot soon after me and I was exhausted from my new and exciting experience.

When all was said and done, I have to admit, I didnt really like it (at first). I think because it was all so new and I had no idea what I was doing. But I will never forget my first time. I hooked up with him now and then over the years, but very sporadically and we still keep in touch a little to this day."

  George's story:
"My first gay sexual experience occurred in college. I was a junior, and the guy I was dating was a freshman. We were each other's first (of any gender). Everything was a progressive step forward. We never got as far as home plate on the base pads, we got to 3rd base. You know, I don't even know how the bases are allocated for the gays. I guess it goes: french, jerk off, suck, fuck Anyway, I'm digressing.
Each night we were together our hands ventured further down the bodies until "oops, I found a penis". He always made the first move, he was the first one to reach his hands into unknown territory. I of course let him. Who was I to argue. This all happened in a dorm room, where I was one of the Resident Assistants, so at any moment my door could be knocked on or the phone could ring (which actually happened once).
He was out like a fat kid playing dodgeball, whereas I was still pretty much in the closet, minus telling a very few select friends. So each time hands ventured into mysterious places. It was all intimate, and comfortable. And I think it helped that we both had no idea what we were doing, we both learned together. "Don't worry I've done this before" was not part of the conversation. One night we ventured down there, and I don't remember if juices flew or not, but at least we got a look at the goods. Then another night it was 2nd base, each of us jerked the other one off. He was kinda picky with cum, he wouldn't swallow. Me, haha, I have no problem swallowing! Then of course the next night we were together we went down on each other, made each other cum, of course he didn't swallow, but it was very affectionate. Later experiences, we tried different positions, nothing terribly kinky, but it was great to explore with someone, and it meant even more knowing he was exploring too.

Now the first anal experience I had, wasn't that. Remember those M4M chat rooms on AOL back in the day? I met a guy on there, and went to his place. First night we only did oral, I had NO idea about anal sex. Didn't know how to prepare, totally oblivious to it. He wanted to fuck me, but I said no, and he was cool with that. I was 22 at the time, and he was 29. I can't quite remember what I did to prep myself for getting fucked. I pretty much determined that I'd be a bottom. I've topped for 2 people ever, the rest on the receiving end. But I did a couple of things to "get ready" for the act, and it seemed to work, and still use it to this day.

Tuesday nights were the unofficial "gay night" at The Ugly Oyster in Reading, and I ventured out quite a bit. So I was at the bar and the same guy I hooked up with was there, and I eyed him from the other side of the bar. Blah blah blah he mouthed that "I'm gonna go [home]" and I followed him out of the bar into the parking lot. He asked if I wanted to come over and "hang out", so I followed him home. Obviously we did more than listen to records, and I let him fuck me. BIG mistake!!! Why? Cuz he was HUGE. Probably about 9 inches, and thick. I know it hurt going in, and of course I had to pick the guy that could go hours before cumming. And he did! Might I say BEST SEX EVER!!! But the next day, I could barely walk, and every time I coughed my insides hurt. Even when I pissed it hurt. I thought I was gonna die. But I got with him about 4 more times after that, still the BEST SEX EVER!!"

Derek's story:"This is the very awkward story of how I lost my innocence! One night at a local bar I was just hanging out with some friends having a gin and tonic. It was the summer of 2009 and I had just graduated college. Pretty carefree and single I was looking at some eye candy.

I was talking to this one guy who found me interesting, but I cannot say I returned the interest. So as the night goes on people begin to exit the bar and my friends decide they want to leave. At this time it's about midnight and I convince them to have one more drink before we depart. Right when I convince these gents to stay, the clouds open and god smiled...well at least I thought she did...

We ordered our drinks and then this older gentleman comes up to me (probably about 35) and tells me that although he thinks I am adorable, his friend has been eyeing me up all night! He said he was shy and he wanted to meet me. So I told him I would go to the bathroom and then he could introduce me to his friend. Of course I went to freshen up and then when I came out this gorgeous man in his mid thirties was shaking my hand and was completely into me. I was floored! He was well built, in great shape, and had a touch of salt and pepper in his hair. We talked and exchanged numbers that night. When I returned to my car he asked me to meet him at his apartment to hangout, but I told him it was too late and I wasn't that kind of gurl. I suggested a movie night and dinner. He then invited me over the next day.

What happened next is one of the most embarrassing and shameful moments I have had in my entire gay experience. I drove over with the anticipation of having a date and left wounded and full of regret!
When I arrived I should have known something was going to happen. I was escorted up to his apartment and he was so full of compliments that he had me in the palm of his hand. His apartment was pretty barren and he said it was because he had just moved here. If we wanted to watch a movie I was told we would have to watch it in his bedroom. I was swooning and cannot even tell you what movie we watched. We started cuddling and making out almost immediately! What happened next still shocks me.

In what felt like one quick swoop, all of my clothes were off and we were lying on his bed. Things got very hot and heavy! He suggested that I close my eyes and when I did I was handcuffed to the bed. The feeling of pleasure left my body and I was filled with extreme dread and regret! I was completely in over my head!

He then began to lube up and put on a condom. I warned him that it was my first time, but even what might have felt like a full voiced warning probably came out as a meek whisper. As he forcefully entered me I began to scream, sweat, and pant in pain. I do not remember what happened during. Emotionally I think I have blocked it out and all I remember is him sliding out of me and panting next to me.

  Next he un-handcuffed me and I slumped into his bed. He exchanged some pleasantries about how enjoyable he thought it was and I forced a smile through my lips. Assuming that after that I would spend the night I laid down and began to get comfortable. He asked if I wouldn't mind going home because it was late. I got dressed in silence and excused myself. I heard from him a few days later when he asked if I would come over, I never responded.

Now that I am older I take this as a learning experience. I am very lucky that I was at least with someone who wore protection, but as a young gay male....I was a stereotype and most importantly an idiot. I want people to hear this story in the hope that they will be smart and never go home with someone they do not know. Although sex is a desire, it can also be a very intimate moment shared between two people who care about eachother! This is what I have learned and hope to teach!"


Remember no glove, no love. Be safe everyone and for god sakes make good decisions.
For my first time story please see the post Like A Virgin
If you would like to share your first time experience here please EMAIL ME or click on the blue comment link below.

It's All About Spanking The Monkey

or Masturbating, Jerking Off, Stroking It, Jacking Off, Wank, Spanking It, Assault on a Friendly Weapon, Squirting Some Tadpoles, Beating Off, Making Batter, Choking The Chicken, Beating Your Meat, Blow Your Load, Polishing The Wood, Bludgeon the Beefsteak, Bopping your Bologna, Couch Hockey for One, Father Palm and His Five Friends, Devil's Handshake, Making The Dew, Spreading The Mayo, Greasing your Bone, Hand Job, Handy-J, Jackin' the Beanstalk, Making Nut Butter, Jerk the Gherkin, Mangling the Midget, Playing With Your Noodle, Polishing The Bishop, Pump the Python, Rubbing One Out, Scratching An Inch, Punchin' The Munchkin, Shaking Hands With Shorty, Shifting The Gear, Tenderize The Meat, Tickle The Pickle, Waxin' your Jackson, Wiggling your Worm, Tossing The Dwarf, Anointing The Altar Boys, Wrist Work, Yanking It, Posing My Action Figure, Favoring Oneself In An Unsatisfactory Way, Popping The Weasel, Releasing Frustration.

They say an average adult male thinks about sex every 7 seconds. I wonder if gay males think about it more often? Masturbation is something just about everyone does, but rarely talks about. You know the joke, "Stop playing with yourself or you'll go blind!" or "Every time you masturbate god kills a kitten." If these were true then there be blind people and kitten carcasses all over the place! Touching ourselves is what hands are for. If we weren't made to touch ourselves we would have been born like T-Rexes

With the success of my post It's All About The Banana, I decided to do another one about Wanking your Doodle Dandy. Below are fun filled facts about masturbation. Some I found online, others I discovered from chatting with people and I even conducted my own survey.

  -Masturbation refers to sexual stimulation, especially of one's own genitals, often to the point of orgasm.
When I was young I had no idea what it was or what I was doing. All I remember is it felt good. The first time I spooged all over I was like, "What is this icky stuff?" I was only 12 and hadn't started Health class yet, so I was pretty clueless. I learned quickly though as most males do. I mean how can we not touch our genitalia it just hangs there!

-The first ejaculation in males often occurs about 12 months after the onset of puberty
Oh my god look I have hair down there! The carpet matches the drapes!

-Many men who began masturbation or other sexual activity prior to puberty report having been able to achieve multiple non-ejaculatory orgasms.
All that good feeling with no messy clean up!

-Nocturnal emission is the ejaculation of semen during sleep.
During puberty, 13% of males experience their first ejaculation as a result of a nocturnal emission. (wet dreams)
Sweet dreams are made of this. "Have Happy Nocturnal Emissions" should be on a greeting card. I'm gonna call Hallmark.

"There once was a man from Bandoo. Who fell asleep in a canoe. He dreamed of Venus and played with his penis and woke up with a hand full of goo!"

-Studies show that 81% of men began masturbating between the ages of 10 and 15 and the largest group viewing online pornography is ages 12 to 17!

See we start out as little perverts at an early age. From the survey I conducted I discovered the average age of first time masturbation is between 11-14. Derek told me a story of the first time he ever Choked Richard Till He Threw Up; "I was dry humping a pillow and came. I was only 12 years old and my penis fell limp right away, so I thought I broke it! It really scared me! I started to cry and have a fit. I asked my dad what happened and he said, "Well it isn't broken and trust me I'm sure you'll be doing that a lot more often, so make sure you are getting your sheets washed!" Then he told me I didn't have to just hump, I could rub it too! It was a very tender father, son moment." Sounds like a future Disney movie to me!

-Circle jerk is slang for male group masturbation (usually referring to a practice of adolescent males).
You know boys will be boys. Among some people I have chatted with some say it was common when they were younger for a small group of guys to hang out and masturbate together. (not touching each other just in the same room.) I've also heard of guys making games out of jerking off. Like the first one to cum wins or the one that shoots his load the furthest wins. Oh the secret games guys will play together when they are bored! Of course none of these guys were even considered gay at the time either. (Rolls eyes) Future homos or closet cases in the making.

-Many men masturbate daily, or even more frequently, well into their 20s and sometimes far beyond. Alfred Kinsey's studies have shown that 92% of men will masturbate in their lifespan. About 50% of men masturbate at least once a day, 75% at least once a week, and 99% at least once a month!
Among the survey that I conducted I found that most guys Tame The Snake at least once a day, five times a week. Guys with a higher sex drive (various ages) will masturbate 2-3 times a day or any chance they can get! Sounds like those guys have a lot of um time on their hands. (pun intended) Kevin stated, "I think it's so much better when u let ur balls fill up!" Kevin is always good at advice giving.

-Some men are able to masturbate for hours at a time, achieving orgasm many times.
I call these men, lucky bastards! Perhaps it's a good thing that all of us can't do this. Things would never get done and surfaces everywhere would be sticky! From my survey I discovered that the average time one plays with his Flesh Twinkie is 5-20 minutes.

-Autofellatio is the act of a male performing oral sex on himself. Only 1 in 400 men are flexible enough to give himself oral pleasure.
Bending it like Beckham! Dogs lick themselves because they can and if all guys could do that you know we would. Heck, if I could do that I'd never leave me house again!

•Ways To Prolong Orgasm

-Edging
Or also called "The Start and Stop Technique" Coming nearly close to climax or ejaculation, then stopping sexual stimulation in order to delay the orgasm, so that the ultimate climax will be more intense. "Edging" is not a practice necessary inclusive of masturbation, but is also practiced amongst homosexual and heterosexual partners. Edging is a good sex therapy technique for a man to learn control of his ejaculation.
"I'm on the edge of glory and hanging on moment with you" brings new meaning to the song now huh.
 
-Kegel Exercises
Though commonly used by women, men can also use Kegel exercises to help achieve stronger erections and gain greater control over ejaculation. Kegel exercises are exercises done to increase the strength of the pelvic floor muscle and to help achieve better orgasms. One exercise for men to try is to hold your urine in. While peeing hold your urine in so you stop peeing for a count of ten. Then release, pee a little and hold again. Do this a few times every time you pee it will help you hold back and you'll last longer. One warning though, don't do this in public restrooms because the guying peeing next to you will think you're cray cray.

•Health Benefits of Slamming the Salami 

-Masturbation is healthy! In fact, it is a natural way that you express and explore your body and sexual feelings.
Love thy self so you can love others.

-Some professionals consider masturbation to function as a cardiovascular workout.
It's like Curves for men!

-Masturbation may increase fertility during intercourse. A recent study found daily ejaculation to be an important factor in sperm health and motility.
Ew breeder sex, but I assume this is important since it takes breeders to make a mo anyways.

 
-Both sex and masturbation lower blood pressure.
It also promotes world peace. Ok maybe that last one is a little out there, but think of it, if men were too busy playing with their little guns, they wouldn't have time for anything else. 

 
-Sexual climax, from masturbation or otherwise, leaves one in a relaxed and contented state, followed closely by drowsiness and sleep.
Results for my survey indicate that a majority of men play with their Wang before they go to bed to help them relax. 

-Endorphins released during orgasm can dull the chronic pain of backaches and arthritis as well as migraines.
Calgone can't take you a way that much!

-It is held in many mental health circles that masturbation can relieve depression and lead to a higher sense of self-worth.
A wank a day keeps the blues away. 

-Masturbating daily will promote greater prostate health and prevent cancer.
Enough said!

  •Masturbation Fetishes
(I don't recommend all of these, some are so weird!)

-Autoerotic asphyxia is the practice of self-induced strangulation or asphyxiation while masturbating.
This is dangerous, but the only nice part is you don't need a safety word. I guess if you went too crazy on yourself you could make yourself pass out, which isn't a good idea if you're by yourself.

-Masturbation in front of your partner can be a turn-on for both partners and is a very enjoyable part of lovemaking. Mutual Masturbation or a Hand Job (Handy-J) can be a safe sex practice and very erotic.
Don't have a partner? You can try to fake it by trying the masturbation technique called "The Stranger" sit on your non-dominant hand till it goes numb (for me it's my left hand) and Whack your Willy. Because you won't have much feeling in that hand you're using, it will fill like someone else is touching you.

-Axillary intercourse is the sexual activity in which a man masturbates his penis in his partner's armpit.
People actually do this? "Wow hunny that new Old Spice deodorant is really turning me on. I'm about to bust a nut all in your pits!" You could wear it then like an Axe commercial "Double pits to chestie."

-More than 70% of men aged 18-34 visit a pornographic site in a typical month.
Porn is often used in conjunction with playing with oneself. Kevin says, "I blast my porn until I get a really good one to finish the job." I'll admit I do the same. Some scenes just turn you on more than others do.

-Men often will call upon erotic memories during masturbation. Like past sexual encounters and fantasies.
I'd be lying if I said I've never done this. Can ya guess who I think about?

-Ablutophilia is the sexual pleasure derived from taking baths, showers, or other modes of washing oneself.
I can't take a bath without "sinking the submarine" to be honest. The survey I did stated that in the shower was the second most popular place (Bed was the first) to send your "Seamen" into battle.

-Sex Toys like a dildo are often intended for bodily penetration during masturbation or sex with a partner or partners.
The orgasms produced by anal play of a male are usually more pleasurable than the orgasm of regular masturbation. Some men have reported having multiple consecutive orgasms, particularly without ejaculation.
It is possible for a man to have an orgasm without ejaculation (dry orgasm). Most times this can only occur through anal simulation. See the post Advice: Bottomed Out for more info. 

-Other Masturbation toys such as Fleshlight (For straight men) and a Fleshjack (For gay men) are popular self simulating tools. I've heard from multiple sources that this is the sex toy to invest in!

So I have to ask how many of you want to touch yourself after reading this? Does little Jimmy wanna play? Just remember masturbation does not cause hairy palms, deafness, scarlet fever, brain damage, cause you to go insane or send you straight to hell. BUT

haha just kidding guys. So wank away it's healthy. (in moderation) Just remember if you're a shooter keep your eyes closed that shit burns.

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HapPENIS

It's probably the most used pickup line among gay men, "Are you a top or a bottom?" Frankly it's not even a good pickup line. It's not funny or witty. It doesn't make me wanna have sex with you or even talk to you. The only way this pickup line works is if the guy is DTF (Down To Fuck) and I guess because the gay community is filled with cock hungry whores that's why it works on some. I on the other hand need something a tad more witty in order for it to work on me. Something like, "If you were a potato chip and I were a battery, you'd be Frito~Lay and I'd be EveryReady!" That would definitely get my attention, cheesy as it sounds.If you're unfamiliar with the gay terms top or bottom you must live under a rock. A top is the 'active partner' or anal insertive (giver) and a bottom is more the 'passive partner' or anal receptive.

Most people assume that a top gets all the pleasure and the bottom is merely just a tight little hole for him pound to away on. This is untrue. Both positions/practices create sensations for both parties. An anal orgasm that a bottom experiences is rather unique. It can occur with or without ejaculation. Sometimes NO stimulation of the actual penis is required to reach an orgasm and it can be rather intense. For all you straight women reading this, if you ever stuck your finger in your boyfriends booty during sex and he exploded everywhere, you kinda know what I'm talking about. Nothing like 'ropes of cum' on the ceiling and wall. Top and bottom is more than just being sexual positions or roles. It's more than being assertive or passive. It has to do with a state of mind, but has it gone to far? I recently read an article about a study done on gay men and their sexual behavior. The article asked the question, "Does penis size determine if you are a top or a bottom and does the size of a man's penis determine if he is happy?" This has created some heated debate among the homos. The study conducted had questionable findings. Can the size of a man's penis really affect his sexual health?

The actual study was called, "The Association between Penis Size and Sexual Health among Men Who Have Sex with Men," it was launched by the National Institute of Health. They studied just over a thousand gay men and this is their findings:

1. Gay men who felt they had small or inadequate penis sizes were more likely to become "bottoms," while gay men with larger penises were more likely to identify themselves as "tops."

2. Men with smaller penises were more likely to be psychologically troubled than those with larger genitalia. The goal of the study was to understand the "real individual-level consequences of living in a penis-centered society."

Do you think their findings are accurate? I decided to do my own little study among gay men in my circle and complete strangers. (I love asking strangers about their junk. Cue: uncomfortable silences) I wanted to determine if this was really as important as the National Institute of Health make it out to be. Here is what some of my friends had to say:
Tristan said, "I am totally irritated by the whole top/bottom role business. If the bigger cock is the top, I'll bet that's related more to one time hookups than anything else. It doesn't make sense to me that a size comparison would matter. To be honest, it probably has more to do with whether one person is a germ freak or not. There's been a lot of times when I don't top because it involves putting a valuable part of my anatomy into an asshole!" I bet some of those guys were actual assholes too!

James said, "This study is false. I've had 2 serious relationships and I was the larger in both and I've played both roles. I've met quite a few very well endowed black guys who are complete bottoms, too!" Hmm black cock. Bobby said, "Although I don't have much experience with the whole top and bottom thing. I think that it is false. It's more based on personality. Whoever is the more dominant personality type is the top. In my opinion." Bobby is on to something there.

Friday night there was a Takeover Event at Bear Creek Mountain Resort and I thought that would be the perfect place to ask some guys about this top and bottom bullshit. Kevin of course usually my partner in crime accompanied me.

As we climbed the mountain in my car and we reached the top he said, "So this is a ski resort? Where's the snow?" I only think he was half kidding. Kevin and I chatted about the study and I admitted in most of my relationships and sexual experience I was usually the bottom and perhaps if I did have a larger penis maybe I would be a top more. My friend Jeffy made a great point when we talked about this, "You didn't wake up and were like "I'm gay but my cocks not big enough, so I'll just bottom! You do it because you like it." I do like the submissiveness sexually in the bottom role, but to be honest when it came to the actual emotional relationships I was more of the dominant one. I partly think this is true because of my strong personality. I need a man who can handle me emotionally. Apply within.

Kevin's thoughts on the study were actually well thought out and passionate. Here is what he had to say, "I think the whole "tops have the bigger penis size thing" is all about what people have been taught to be socially acceptable among the gay population. It's almost as though gay men have been brainwashed to think that way and that's why it has come to be the more common thing. I think alot of bottoms have been forced to abide by this, but let's just say this, "Do u think every heterosexual male has to have a big one in order to stick it in something?" No a man is a man! Every guy likes to stick their dick in something! Most gay men will just go with the flow cuz tops tend to be more controlling. This is something I actually feel strongly about in my relationships, I want both of us to be versatile. I personally do not want to be just the top or the bottom. I want to feel equal. If a guy is always a bottom and wants to try being a top I think he has the full right too! And if the top denies him this I say the bottom should withhold sex. I would certainly do that!" Kevin's approach to equality in a relationship is refreshing. I told him how much I loved his mature response and he said, "I know right? I'm like super smarticle."

Kevin's approach to the whole 'brainwash' aspect could be correct. We've always been told "bigger is better" or is it? Gay men seem to have a fetish with huge penises and even worship them as if they are attached to Jesus himself. One could say heterosexual men have a little wiggle room when they tell a woman their penis size, but gay men will get out a measuring tape and magnifying glass just to verify.

Gay men obviously know how to suck a dick well. I think it's coded in our DNA, and maybe we have practicing since birth. This just proves that happiness isn't measured by ones genitalia. Kile says, "Big cocks are for sucking and small ones are for fucking." Enough said!

There's a group of gay men that rarely or never participate in anal sex. They actually prefer only oral sex. One of my first boyfriends was actually that way. He didn't like anal sex at all and said he didn't want to infect pain on someone he cared about so he could have pleasure. Looking back at it now I think I would have been fine. My ass isn't the Grand Canyon, but I'm sure it would have accommodated him. Among my friends there are a few that prefer oral, like Bobby, George, and Kevin. They would rather slob on a pulsating knob than take a ride on the log flume. I guess in this case size doesn't matter.

  So what else happened at Bear Creek after my research was over? Kevin discovered they turn the automatic doors off at midnight because he walked right into them. (Just another thing to add to the list of things that aren't his friends such as; revolving doors, liquids, glasses, flat surfaces and any messy food in general.) I got an invitation to sit on someone's face. I did hesitate in a response because it's been such a long time but ultimately declined his offer. We also learned guys with the name "Hoyt" are cornfed and hot!

When you say "no" you get called a slut. Kevin was attacked by Harold whom wanted to hook up with him. Harold preceded to fondle Kevin I guess in an effort to entice him. It didn't work. And when Kevin refused his advices and pushed him off. Harold got mad and said, "Well why not you're a slut anyway?" I guess he thought since Kevin once slept with his friend he would have a shot, but a way to get into someone's pants is NOT to call them a slut.

  Bobby discovered confidence is a must when trying to talk to new and cute guys. He tried to follow advice he received from Dr. Stacy. (Host of the podcast 'Why You Suck In Bed' on The Glory Hole Radio Network. I've listened to them a few times and they are fabulous! Check them out.) Dr. Stacy told him to be confident and not to second guess what he wants to say. I personally did see an improvement in his overall demeanor. Bobby seemed less socially awkward than normal. Although the event did have slim pickins, I feel he made the best of it. I've always told him that "you have good things down there." He needs to hypnotize the mo's with his penis and DSLs not worry so much.

So what was my conclusion on the research? Does size matter and does it determine if someone is a top or a bottom? That study was a bunch of baloney. Of all the guys I have talked to they all said size does not determine the sexual position, their personality does. Sure bigs ones are fun to look at and maybe play with, but I'd rather have a guy with a heart than a big cock any day. Respect what you got, respect the cock!

*Remember no glove, no love. Regardless if you're the top or the bottom make sure you practice safe sex.

  Below are some more comments guys had about the study the National Institute of Health did:
"If you oppose the social pressures and allow inner confidence and attitude to rule than an average guy like me can make endowed men be my slave(s)."
"It's rubbish, I'm built like a donkey and I'm completey bonkers..."
"Gee when I was in the military I found a lot of well hung guys wanted to be penetrated by guys like me with medium to small (6 inches) penises. But we also had a tradition that the guy with the smaller pecker, which was often me, had to suck off the guy with the bigger cock. So..."
"I think the study is silly (that is to say limited) Where are the men who are NOT obsessed with anal-insertive sex? I am mostly a top, but mostly not into anal sex. The implication that queer sex MUST involve fucking, and that anything less is somehow inferior is a dictative prejudice--particularly in the time of HIV/AIDS. I like to think that I'm still around and healthy because I have not engaged in risky behavior. I don't think dick size has much to do with taking a top or bottom role in sex. I have known plenty of big-hung men who were either, or who liked both. What I have noticed about well-hung men is that they are sometimes narcissistic, unconcerned with mutual pleasure, tend to lay back to "get done," and think their big dicks warrant them some special treatment, as though they are god's gift to the rest of us. (I've also had wonderful lovers with ample endowments.)"
"Well this is one Bullshit study as are so many studies around gay men."

"I don't think dick size determines what you like but I think big guys tend to be more toppish and us little guys tend to do the bottom role."
"I love to suck cock and make it cum. I don't care if it big or small. They all get hard and cum . I will do both top or bottom and my cock is 6.5 and fat. When I bottom I like small ones, big ones hurt to much."
"If I had more than 4 inches I think I'd be more of a top, so maybe the study is correct."
"I actually am more willing to bottom for a guy with a medium or small cock. They seem to be better at hitting the spot to be honest. Although I do try for versatility in every relationship, I usually end up topping."
"The gay population should not be separated by groups, since people must adopt the sexual position which is more of their liking. With sex one obtains pleasure, it's not about what the partner prefers."
"I am 7.75" and I am a 100% bottom. I have known that I wanted to be the receptive partner since I was 8 years old, as it is what makes me feel complete."

"I'm a massive but I am very versatile. I will make you smile!"
"I do not agree with this study. Size has nothing to do with being top or bottom. It all depends on what you enjoy most. Me and my boyfriend both have almost same size penis,(7" if you are curious) but I'm the top and he is the bottom. Sometimes when I'm in a mood I like to be the bottom to please him, but unfortunately he really doesn't enjoy being top at all."
"I think the fact that guy's cocks vary so much is amazing. What causes that in genetics I wonder? I wonder if some day they will be able to make them surgically bigger like breast implants do now. I wish cause I'd pay for another inch or two."
"Perhaps, this study is true but only for the group studied. For me it all boils down to personal preference and what each man considers pleasurable. Unfortunately, it is assumptive that because one is gay, anal sex is a given. That couldn't be farther from the truth. It's a bit like saying all lesbians use dildos; another assumption that is so incorrect. I'm fairly well endowed (8+) but have met so many men with smaller penises that are total tops and are not bothered by their penis size. In my mind, it's the whole package as well, ie: to whom that penis is attached to. A big penis is great to look at but not always great to sit on! Being the bottom in anal sex is not for everyone and again boils down to preference, sexual mood or both."
"I have an incredibly thick cock and it is as much of a curse as a blessing. Many guys are afraid of the size. Those who are not usually can't take it anyway. Of course it's fun to try, but not real satisfying in the end. I have mostly been a top, but don't get many opportunities as a whole."
"I agree, I have a 4 1/2" cut penis, and always felt like a bottom, being very submissive when I'm with a top."
"It dosen't matter it depends on the person I have a 10'' cock and I like to bottom!"
"I love to be either top or bottom, but like to suck it more."
"I guess I've been more of a top in the sack, until recently when a guy I've been dating has been nailing me on a regular basis, sort of makes me regret what I've been missing..."
"I am 6 foot tall and my hard dick desparatley reaches 5inch, and when I meet guys they nail me down to be a submissive bottom, as they have the larger penises. They try to fuck me, and I have to give way. I definelty feel that dick size does matter in determining TOP or bottom."
"I have encountered many guys who like to brag about being tops, and to my surprize, those are the one who render the ass first. It is usually the quiet ones who usually surprize you with being a top. Top or bottom is such a sensitive issue in the gay community. Not so many like to admit that they like to bottom."
"I'm 9" uncut and decently thick, and I still prefer to bottom... It's all about the guys preferences really. I know quite a few guys who pack similarly and still prefer to bottom."
"I just want to have a partner in life whom will love me for the rest of his life!"

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The Deal Breakers

For a change of scenery Bobby and I decided to visit Rainbow Mountain Resort Saturday night. Bobby's friend (Ex boyfriend really) Derek accompanied us. I know what you're thinking Rainbow Mountain that sounds uber gay, right? Like a land of a thousand fairies? If you ever saw the Friday The 13th movies the resort looks kind of like that, but only if it was a gay slasher movie with fags frolicking through the woods. I was expecting a buff guy in a hockey mask to jump out in front of me and stab me with his boner. Unfortunately that didn't happen. Maybe next time.

Rainbow Mountain Resort is actually located in the Pocono Mountains of Northeast Pennsylvania. Where the men are hairy and so are some of the women. They are a gay-owned and operated resort, restaurant and nightclub that is situated high atop a mountainside. I have no idea what the rooms/cabins were like because we didn't stay there over night. The views though were pretty even at night. They have a huge swimming pool and sundeck everyone knows how I love a big deck.

I didn't go in the pool. It was dark and I didn't want to accidentally swim into ropes of cum in the water. They also have a decent size hot tub, which to me just screams STD stew but to each their own. Some other amenities include; a heated changing room; an exercise facility; a sauna; tennis, volleyball, badminton and shuffleboard courts; a pond with paddle boats, fishing, and hand jobs provided by local lumberjacks. (kidding...kind of)

The nightclub was fun and that's where we spent most of our time. The crowd was rather mixed with pretty boys (mainly us), cornfed country boys, hippie rednecks, trannies, butch mountain men and lesbians looking for beaver. You have to experience it for yourself, really. The nightclub was like dancing in a barn surrounded by hard wood. It was complete with some mirrors, stripper pole and cage. What? Doesn't every barn have this? Like a naughty fetish barn. To be honest I was expecting to hear the song "Cotton-Eyed Joe" at any moment.

  We all had a great time. Bobby ran into people he knew and an enemy he wished he hadn't. I swear this guy made me look like the butchest mo ever. His voice sounded like Karen Walker fucking a chipmunk! He was the biggest bitch I'd ever met, but that didn't deter Bobby from playing tonsil hockey with a tall mountainesque cornfed type hottie. I think they were doing reenactments from Glee, Finn and Rachael style. I lost sight of Bobby a few times. Who knows what he was doing. I personally hit it off pretty well with Bobby's friend Derek. We hung out while Bobby played "How much did a woodchuck, chuck." Derek looked like a cross between Cam Gigandet and Dane Cook. Almost as if they had a love child. I of course got a kiss from him once I told him this. Hey I know how to suck up.








There was something about Derek I couldn't put my finger on. I don't know maybe I did actually want to put my finger on it. I did stick my hands down his pants when he said he had no underwear on. Hey, I had to check, just doing my part for America! He actually has an infectious personality and I had felt like I had known him forever. Some of the people we've met Saturday actually found it hard to believe we had just met that night a few hours before. He reminded me alot of Kevin. You know mouth constantly open with other people's tongues in it. He was a shitload of fun though and I'm sure he'll show up in future posts.

 
Our trip to the wilderness that was Rainbow Mountain was fun I'd definitely go again and suggest you check it out if you're in their neck of the wood. Maybe next time I'll find myself a hot country boy who wants to plow my field. On our way home I began to think about the last time I was at Rainbow Mountain. This wasn't the first time I had been up there. Years ago probably about 7 now, I went there with a guy I was dating. His name was Fred. Fred and I only dated a short time because he crossed one of my deal breakers. He was extremely too clingy! After we had broken up he then proceeded to stalk me for three months. He even went to my house while I was out with other friends and introduced himself to my mother as my boyfriend! He had a few nuts loose obviously.

The Fred situation made me think about dating deal breakers and how everyone has them. Before a possible love connection can flourish there's always compromising that must be considered. Some guys have bad habits, some have bad behaviors and some are just plain weird. An example of a deal breaker could be hygiene although if he looked like this I may let it slide......in and out.

You have to figure out where your limit is. What you can handle. You could almost compare dating to a type of game show. People put all their cards on the table even if their hand sucks. It always best to be upfront and honest if there's an issue in the beginning of a possible love connection. I mean why waste your time, right? You either take it or leave it. BUT everyone has their threshold. A dating deal beaker is something that you just can't look passed and it causes you to say, "I can't do this!"

Bobby told me what his deal breakers are, "If I have to always drive to them (why are so many gay guys carless?)" He is right. "Driving Miss Daisy" was a cute movie but who wants to do that in real life. Honey you're no Jessica Tandy!

Bobby said the guy also has to be out. This actually is one of mine as well. When you're dating someone who isn't out but you are it's like taking a giant leap backwards. It almost feels like you're in the closet with them. Depending on the situation I wouldn't automatically break up with them, but I'd grab a wire hanger and do my best to coach them out. It's not always healthy to stay in the closet. It's one thing to not be out to certain people, but I couldn't deal with keeping it secret from absolutely everyone.

  So what was Bobby's most important deal breaker? The one which isn't up for discussion at all? There's no compromising on this one! "We have to have safe sex all the time." As I always like to say, "No glove, no love!" This is a popular deal breaker among some of my friends and it should be. Why take the risk? If ya don't have a ballon, this clown ain't gonna play with you! They may not be concerned with their own health but YOU should be concerned with yours.

When I asked Knockers what his deal breaker is he said when guys constantly talk about their exes. This is a pretty common one and it's one I actually can't stand. I was out with this guy one time and had to tell him "I really don't want to hear about your ex anymore. He is your past concentrate on now." An "ex" is called an "ex" because it's an EXample of what you shouldn't have again in the future and it's an EXtreme waste of time.

  Sunday was Kevin's graduation picnic. He recently graduated college. (*applause please) I can't believe he did it! This is a person that says "I don't feel like counting the alphabet" and asked me where Maine was. He is book smart, but maybe they are coloring books I'm not sure. (Just kidding.) While I was at Kevin's picnic I asked some of the girls what their deal breakers were and not surprising they have similar ones to gay boys. Bethany said she likes masculine take charge kind of men. This obviously is hard for her to find because she is such a sassy gay boy magnet! Kevin said, "I swear she's gonna end up marrying a gay dude one day." Lola said she likes them thick. she meant body type but I'm sure that included cock as well. Victoria said the guy has to be taller than she is. That's actually another one of mine. You must be this big to ride this ride. When I was in the middle of describing how I like my men strong and thick Kevin's grandmother walked in and her face was priceless. Oops my bad. I had fun with Kevin's family...they drink.

Kevin said his most important deal breaker "If they don't fit in with my friends then they are kicked to the curb!" Another friend of mine said, "My friends have to approve of the guy I'm going out with because my friends mean the world to me." Friends are important and I consider a majority of my friends an extension of my family so I can see why this deal breaker is a must. You always want your potential love interest to get along with your family and friends. I personally value Kevin, James, Bobby, and Sean's opinions on whomever I may be dating. Sometimes your friends can save you from some serious heartbreak. They may sense or pick up something you may not have. "If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends,
Make it last forever friendship never ends, If you wanna be my lover, you have got to give, Taking is too easy, but that's the way it is." Thank you Spice Girls!

When someone crosses your deal breaker you have to ask yourself, "Can I put up with this forever?" Somethings are made to be broken. Superficial deal breakers like appearance can be adjusted depending on the guy. It's the deal breakers that challenge your values that you have to decide if this could be worth it. Is it deal or no deal?

For information on Rainbow Mountain Resort please visit http://www.rainbowmountain.com
If you have a dating deal breaker and want to share it please click on the blue comment link below to submit.

You Wanna Do It Here? (Public Sex)

Jules: "Would you ever bang a guy in the bathroom?"
Sven: "If I did, it wouldn't be someone that I needed to get a rabies shot for!"

It is estimated that at any given time there's at least 5,000 people in the world having sex. The most common place for adults to have sex is in the bedroom or somewhere else in their home. "On the bed, on the floor, on the towel, by the door, in the tub, in the car, up against the mini-bar!" The second most common place is actually in their car. Having sex with the light on is great just make sure the car door is shut. Public sex is a lot more common then people think. Straight couples have had sex in public places obviously, but it's more common among gay men, bi-sexual men and closeted men. (They feel that it's their only option.) Some reasons for public sex are; fetishes, people get turned on by the thought of getting caught, it's adventurous! They have no other choice, you live with someone or you aren't out yet. Str8 men or bi men meet for anonymous sex. And then there's that possibility that they are just a sausage swallowing, tubesteak loving, cum guzzling slut!

In the gay world you are bound to run into public sex. Fooling around in gay bar's bathrooms is almost a rite of passage. (back door passage) There's of course the Gay Church aka The Gym where sexual acts have um gone down and there's even bathhouses that cater to gay sex acts where men can get a facial so to speak. Even gay porn is cashing in on public sex. There's a few gay porn sites that feature men having sex at movie theaters, restroom, and even stores! Now I'm not 100% sure if these are really real or just an act. I know acting in porn vids, that's a new one! I did have to watch some videos (We'll call that 'Research') and in some of the videos they do get caught doing the deed.

Now some of my friends on the other hand, well let's just say they are a tad bit more adventurous or um sluttier than I. I've heard stories about them having sex behind a Red Robin restaurant, parks, public bathrooms, on a picnic table at the beach, porta potty's at pride events, on the bus (I have a friend that commutes to New York for work.) and some even had sex at work. Bobby said, "Yeah I've done stuff in the parking lot at my old job. It was a right of passage with the employees that worked there! Haha!"

I have never had actual sex in public (Cock to an orifice) but I have had extremely naughty dry humping, fondling, panty wetting kind of making out in public. You know the kind where you are both so hard that you're walking like a penguin. Let's just say that involved us leaving quickly and going home. (Pound, pound, pound, pound, pound!!) I did give my boyfriend of the time a handjob in my car. It was behind a shopping parking lot while we were waiting for another friend. I'm glad I had Armor All Wipes in my car cause he shot everywhere! I remember when we picked up my friend she said, "I love that new car smell!" I smell sex and Armor All, yeah! I guess I could count that as a form of public sex even though there was no penetration. It's funny I'm not usually one for PDA (Unless I'm with someone that makes me feel safe. Don't want to be chased with pitchforks!) and public sex is like PDA on steroids! I will admit there's a few guys I would totally ride till they are puffing out air, even if it was in public. Hey if they said yes I'll take it where I can get it.

Kevin has had a few public adventurers since I've known him. He's been on more laps than a napkin. One time he hooked up with this guy whom had a kid and they fooled around in the guy's car. Kevin had to ask the guy to put the child's carseat in the trunk so they could get it on. He told me he actually sat on a McDonalds Happy Meal Toy. Now for most people this would be a mood killer, but Kevin powered through. Last year when Kevin and I were in New Hope he fooled around with a semi straight married guy that was there with his wife. (I'm pretty sure they were swingers) They hooked up in the bathroom, the semi straighty blew him in the bathroom at this hotel we were hanging out at for the day. (It was a gay resort with a big pool we spent the day swimming. I hung out with Knockers.) I only lost track of Kevin for 10 minutes it was a get in, get off kind of thing. So why does Kevin like public sex? He had this to say, "Well for me public sex is exciting! There's nothing hotter than the thought of getting caught by someone! Especially in a parking lot behind Red Robin!! Chicken fingers and sex...yum!!!"

Saturday night Kevin and I were out at the bar. I was doing some research on the public sex topic and I asked a couple of friends if they have ever done it. My friend Allan told me he had many times and then continued to ask me when was the last time I actually had sex. (He knows I can be semi prude sometimes.) I told him it actually wasn't that long ago. He said, "Oh yeah when?" I told him when I was in Philly back in April ("I'm Naked Y'all!") He looked at me and said, "Oh with Knockers, right?" I said, "Um no with Edward!" Apparently the rumors about Knock and I are still going around. (Rumor Has It) Everyone thinks I'm riding him like a jockey. Perhaps I should call him Seabiscuit now. I suppose the rumor could be worse and if there has to be a sex rumor between Knock and I, I'm glad it's with him. He is totally a hottie after all. I told Knock that Bonnie Raitt's song 'Lets Giving Them Something To Talk About' keeps playing in my head. I asked Knockers if he has ever had sex in public before and he said, "No. I'm not really the outdoorsy type. I did join the mile-high club back in 2000 when the bathrooms were a little bigger. It was just the tip though." I'll be honest I would have let him play with my cockpit as well. Hmm I'm thinking maybe Knock and I need to take a vacation together. Haha. He said, "I prefer to have sex in a hotel suite." I agree with him, but I guess I'm not as picky cause after all I did lose my virginity in a Best Western.

Below is an interesting ABC News Article it reminds me of when George Michael was arrested for lewd acts in a public restroom.

When Men Cruise for Sex in Public Places, Police Take Notice, Some Gays Say It's Unfair While...

...many Americans may only be vaguely familiar with the idea of "cruising," there is a secret world of sex between men that exists in public places across the country.
The police officer who arrested Sen. Larry Craig, R-Idaho, in a men's restroom at the Minneapolis airport for allegedly looking to engage in gay sex wrote in his June report that he "recognized a signal used by persons wishing to engage in lewd conduct."
Craig tapped his foot up and down and swiped his hand underneath the bathroom stall in which the undercover cop was sitting, according to the police report.
Those actions led to Craig's arrest by Detective Dave Karsnia and the senator's guilty plea to a disorderly conduct charge. Craig told reporters today that he did nothing inappropriate and said his guilty plea was a mistake.
Public places like men's restrooms, in airports and train stations, truck stops, university libraries and parks, have long been places where gay and bisexual men, particularly those in the closet, congregate in order to meet for anonymous sex.
Over time, people familiar with cruising told ABCNEWS.com, gay men began using a codified system of signals to indicate to others that they were interested in sex. In an effort to curb lewd acts in public — or as some gays argue, in an effort to persecute gay men — undercover police began sting operations in places known for sex soliciting and employed the same codes.
"Tapping of the foot is pretty standard for men who cruise in toilets," said Keith Griffith, owner of Cruisingforsex.com, a Web site on which visitors post locations popular with men looking for anonymous sex.
"They will usually go to the stall at the far end of the strip of toilets. They will see each other and usually decide to go someplace else. The vast majority have no interest in being seen. They may be meeting in public locations, but they will be as discreet as possible," Griffith said.
Cruising areas traditionally have been those parts of town "women and children are told to avoid," but through word of mouth, bathrooms at places like Wal-Mart or Home Depot can become cruising locales, he said.
Griffith said that officers involved in such stings tend to be young and that anecdotal posts on his site indicate the local arrest rates increase around the time of elections or when media attention focuses on the issue.
Because much of the signaling is itself benign behavior, some gay rights activists and lawyers have admonished police departments for arresting men who have done little more than tap their feet.
"Citizens have a right not to confront lewd activity in public places," said Steve Sanders, a lawyer and gay rights activist. "But if there is evidence that a sting is motivated by anti-gay animus, that may represent a more troubling issue."
At trial, Sanders said, police would have to prove that actions such as foot tapping were known signals for soliciting sex.
"What constitutes probable cause to arrest someone? If a case like this went to trial, police officers would have to produce evidence to say here is how we can say with certainty this is was really a lewd act," he said.
Craig pleaded guilty to the charges and therefore opted against a trial.
Today, Craig denied being gay and said he made a mistake by pleading guilty.
Police officers, for the most part, only investigate an area after members of the public have complained about it being used for sex, said Rich Gregson, executive director of the California Peace Officers Association.
"Police officers will investigate areas that have known histories of this sort of activity. They rely on their own knowledge and experience to tell what is happening. Most officers know the difference between an intentional signal and a stray motion," he said.
The public has a right to enter public areas without worrying about inadvertently seeing lewd acts, Gregson said. The 35-year veteran police chief said he believed this sort of activity took place "in every jurisdiction" and heard stories of "off-duty officers and even judges being caught and arrested."
With many other options available for gay men to meet each other, Gershen Kaufman, a professor emeritus of psychology at Michigan State University and author of the book "Coming Out of Shame," said public cruising is practiced mainly by deeply closeted men.
"Cruisers are not sex offenders. They are deeply, deeply closeted. There is a lot of self-hatred and shame and they can't allow themselves to come to terms with their sexuality. There is also the added element of danger and being discovered," he said.

Did you find that article helpful on picking up men in public restrooms? Who knew tapping on the ground with your foot is code for "wanna fuck?" The news is so educational! Hmm maybe I can convince Kevin to try this and I'll do a follow up post on his cruising for guys in bathrooms. I'll bribe him with chicken fingers. The only thing the article doesn't mention is that most public restrooms where cruising actually happens there are glory holes. What's a glory hole you ask? A glory hole is an opening cut into the partition between two stalls in a men's restroom, through which oral sex can be performed. (That awkward moment when I had to explain to my mom what a glory holes was.) Chances are if you didn't know what a glory was you've probably seen one. Acts like this usually involve the closeted men that don't want to be seen like the article states.

Well I guess as long as there's horny adventurous men there will be sex in public. My only advice is becareful! Check your surroundings before you play poke me in the brown eye. Avoid places where there is children! That's just wrong! Use protection! The last thing you want is that adventurous romp to give you something you won't be able to get rid of! It's actually safe to keep a condom in your wallet for about a month before it becomes subject to breakage. I am not a promiscuous person in the lest but even I keep condoms in my fag bag cause you never know. AND lastly, try not to get arrested! (Try explaining that to a possible future employer.)

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