PrEP by Walter Moore

PrEP stands for “Pre-exposure Prophylaxis” and is a measure that has recently been approved for HIV- individuals to take, that are at a high risk of contracting HIV, to lower the risk of them contracting HIV. Whether it is from being very sexually active or for those who are negative and in a relationship with someone who is positive. 

I bring up PrEP (which the medication given is Truvada) because, although I am not at this current time in a relationship with an HIV+ guy, I am in love with an HIV+ guy. He is in love with me too. 

We are not officially together, because I believe we are both afraid that the other won’t be around a year from now. Taking the step to get on this medication is my way of showing him that I am dedicated. I want to be around here a year from now… even 10 years from now. 

As a gay man, I think the idea of having a medication that can lower the risk of catching HIV is amazing! As a gay man, I love the fact that there have been so many advances in medicine that can extend the lives of HIV+ individuals to normal a length. 

I am negative. I get tested every 3 months and recommend everyone do so! Especially those who deal with sex addiction, as I do. Let’s get serious for a moment, okay? Being that we are gay MEN, are we not horny a lot, if not all of the time. It’s time we accept the fact that we are all horny too much for our own good. 

I mean I am 24 and my numbers are in the 100’s! There are many reasons as to why I have had sex with some many different guys, but you can read about that another time. 

I’m sure a lot of you are reading this thinking, “Damn ‘in the 100’s’? You’re a whore!” And you’re right, partially. But now I’m not, I have dealt with my demons and bottles that have caused me to think I need to have sex a lot to feel wanted. 

Since you’re probably reading this and thinking negatively about me, I am writing this and thinking are you able to judge me? Are you perfect? Have you had sex with one person and only that one person? Have you only had sex with your boyfriends? If that’s so, answer this question for yourself, have you had many boyfriends? And how many people have they had sex with? Once you think of it like that, it gets somewhat scary doesn’t it?

That is why I think Truvada for negative people is an AMAZING idea! Now it’s not 100% a guarantee to keep you from becoming positive. That’s because nothing in the medical field (which I work in) is 100% every time. Every medication works and affects each person differently.

However, isn't it worth a try? I’m sure at least one of you is like me, in love with someone who is positive while you’re negative or vice versa. I think this drug is worth it, so should you. 

If you want to look into it, the CDC has lots of information about it, but a couple of specific links you can check out our:

http://myprepexperience.blogspot.com

http://www.projectinform.org/prep

You can also check out my blog at http://realmidwestgay.blogspot.com to see how my experience with it goes when I get started. 

Thanks for reading everyone! Have a great day, a blessed holidays, be safe, and don’t forget to tell your loved ones you love them every day!

Written by ~Walter Moore

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Is Everyone Dick Obsessed, Except for Me?

Okay, okay don’t get me wrong, I love dick. Sure, I watch porn. I enjoy photos of naked men, but that’s pretty much it. I have concluded that everyone is obsessed with dick except for myself.

We live in a penis-obsessed society. There are annual festivals in Japan worshipping the penis. I don’t live in Japan obviously, but it feels like everyone is phallic cray around me. Everyone is like “Ooo penis, and I’m over here like, ‘Can I get some cheese fries?’”

I became increasingly aware of my indifference over the summer on vacation. I was on vacation with three other gay men for a week. They, of course, were actively seeking dick, and I just wanted to meet someone to talk to. Needless to say, I didn’t have that much fun. I was surrounded by gay men and felt completely alone because there was no one that was like me. Everyone was only interested in hooking up and blowing a load. 

As I’m getting older, I have discovered that there is, in fact, no one that is like me. Even the “nice guys” aren’t that nice. So if they are finishing last, then I must be stuck in reverse.

I can count on one hand how many sexual partners I have had. This includes all sexual acts; oral, anal, mutual masturbation. I had relationships with all of them. I wouldn’t call myself a prude. I have a mouth like a sailor, I write gay erotica and I’d be the first one of my group of friends to see a hot foreign guy and say, “I wanna put his dick cheese on a cracker.” of course I wouldn’t mean it. I would just say it because it’s vulgar and funny. I had sex a lot with my partners, I like sex, but I have always treated sex as a form of connecting with someone I cared about. Therefore, as you can see one-night stands are not my thing.

I wish I could be like the general gay public. Most of my friends open their mouths and bam a penis falls in, and they seem happy about it. I don’t know where my moral compass comes from. I’m not saying their promiscuous behavior is wrong; I’m saying it is wrong for me. They say, “Hello” by sending pictures of their dicks to strangers, and I say, “Hello” by saying, “Hello.” Sure, I appreciate a nice dick pic, but it is more of a turn off for me. I always look at it like this, if he is sending it to me, he’s sending it to other guys, and there goes that special feeling. My friends obviously use Grindr for hooking up; I use it to sell books. I admit it is funny. When I’m in a different location or city guys look up the info and then proceed to buy a copy of one of my books. It happens all the time. At least there are guys out there that like dick and reading.

I have been told that I am boyfriend / husband material, yet I’m single. Most gay men can only commit to their Netflix subscription so you can see why this is problematic. I don’t want the “open” relationship or be that couple that “plays.” I have tried dating sites that are supposed to cater to men looking for something more, but it is just the same guys that are on Grindr with nicer profiles. Maybe I need to move.

As you can see, I am in a rut. It’s rather lonely on this side of the rainbow. I feel like there’s no one that feels this way and even talking to my friends about this is hopeless. They don’t understand. They say, “Just get some peen already.” Hoping on some D will temporarily make me feel great, but the aftermath of “Why did I do that?” will haunt me, and I’d be worse off. I have a feeling the only dick I will ever be obsessed with will belong to my future boyfriend… wherever he is. 

Around the World in 80 Gays

Months ago I was asked to participate in a survey about gay men all over the world. The guys conducting the survey then compiled all the answers and created an ebook called Around the World in 80 Gays. 

Book Description:

What's it really like to be 'a gay'? Does a love of divas and kitsch permeate all, or do we go Gaga over being so stereotyped? 

Fascinating, amusing, moving – even a little bit sexy – Around the World in 80 Gays sets out to discover why many of us embrace the bustle and culture of large cosmopolitan cities, why some prefer a more neighborly small town existence, and why others opt for the intimate community of relaxed country life. 

But there are also those who have no choice. Those who must simply make the best of living in a place they have no chance of leaving, a place where tolerance and ‘being out’ are nothing more than tales from abroad. Yet where gay bars and clubs are replaced by discretion and secrecy, technology is fostering underground freedoms and friendships that could never have existed before. 

From Sydney to Siberia, island paradise to global metropolis, and through liberal democracies to military dictatorships, these collected true accounts of modern gay life and love are an enchanting and enlightening read. 

* * In recognition of their tireless promotion of equality everywhere, 20% of the royalties from this book will be donated to All Out. * *

My answers to the survey I filled out:

**pictures were added to my answers just for this blog post. They are not included in the book.

Philadelphia, Pennsylvania

Jason, 34

Writer

1. Are you a native or, if not, why did you move here and how long ago?

I was born in a small city outside of Philadelphia called Doylestown. We lived in Bucks County Pennsylvania till I was about 12, then moved to Lehigh County (Allentown, Bethlehem, Easton) area. I currently live in a very small village called Seisholtzville. It’s in between Reading and Allentown. I’m technically about an hour outside the city of Philadelphia. Since Philadelphia is the closest major city, I visit it whenever I can and stay with friends while I’m there.

2. What keeps you here?

I’m here for my family and friends.

3. Where’s the best neighborhood and why?

The Gayborhood, which is the gay portion of Philly. It runs from Chestnut to Pine street between 11^th and Broad.streets. There are about 11 gay friendly bars in the area that all range from nightclub to neighborhood bar. The area is usually clean and feels safe. Restaurants and other retailers are also around in the area. It’s an enjoyable nightlife experience.

4. What do you do in your leisure time?

I read and write of course. Usually I can be found hanging out with friends and checking out the bar scene or a new place to eat. I enjoy concerts, museums and local festivals too.

5. What’s the best thing about living in your city?

Usually anything you could ever want is within walking distance or could be delivered to your door.

6. What’s the worst thing about living in your city?

Parking is horrible and expensive and unless you live close to center city you will need a car.

7. What’s the most pleasant adventure you've had here?

Every year my best friend and I combine our birthdays together and friends from all over get together and we bar hop around the Gayborhood. It is always nice to see familiar faces and meet new ones.

8. What’s the most unpleasant adventure you've ad here?

One time I stayed with my friend and we were all out at a bar and he ended up falling on me and I sprained my leg really bad. Of course, it being the city we walked everywhere, so there I was hobbling around town. It took 4 months to heal!

9. What would you consider a must-see/do experience?

Philadelphia Zoo is a must visit. The zoo is one of the oldest zoo’s in the country! While you are in town, you have to eat an authentic Philly Cheese steak! Get it with Whiz.

10. What would you consider a must-see/do gay experience?

You have to visit the Gayborhood area and visit all the establishments. Every year in July, the city celebrates Pride and every year in October, the city celebrates OutFest. OutFest is a huge block party in the Gayborhood where they have vendors, giveaways and entertainments. It’s always a good time.

OutFest

11. What other cities would you like to live in and why?

I would love to live in Key West. I vacationed there once it’s the right amount of hot boys, beach and friendly locals.

12.  What’s the best city you've ever lived in and why?

Rehoboth Beach, Delaware is great location. The Beach is nice. They have a decent gay friendly area. There are many restaurants and shops you would never get bored. I enjoyed Rehoboth so much I actually based my first book on the area.

13. Would you and could you walk hand in hand around your city?

I would feel comfortable holding hands in public in the gay sections of Philly only.

14.  Is the gay scene (online/offline) welcoming?

Gay men in general tend to be fickle creatures, but I feel as in a whole, the gay population of Philly is very welcoming. During events such as Pride, OutFest and others, gay men in the area always come out to show their support.

15.  What’s your typical Friday night and/or Sunday morning?

Most Friday nights in the city, involve going out to dinner. If the weather is nice, then the place usually involves being outside dining alfresco style. Club nights start out with the usual haunts like the gay bar Woody’s, followed by iCandy and then end with the bar Tavern on Camac for dancing. After hours there’s Voyeur till 3am. During events sometimes, they are open all night. I’ve already been there till 5am. Afterwards we usually grab a slice of pizza at 13^th Street Pizza for Buffalo Chicken Pizza or their Mac and Cheese Pizza.

Saturday nights are usually spent the same way but may involve different places.

Sunday mornings are for brunch. There are places for brunch all over the city and most offer special prices and bottomless Blood Mary’s or Mimosas. Nothing cures a hangover faster than a Bloody in the morning.

16. How would you rate the fuckability of the locals and where does one find the hotties?

Cute boys are everywhere and range from cute gay nerd to hot jock. Friday and Saturday nights are the busiest nights at the local gay bars, but it can be overwhelming. If you want to make a true connection sometimes going on quieter nights are best. I met a couple cuties just by going to the local Starbucks for coffee.

17.  What’s the most outrageous place you've had sex?

I once jerked my ex-boyfriend off in my car behind a Walmart. He came all over the dashboard. Then we went shopping, and bought lube.

18.  What is your favorite gentlemen’s club?

In Philly there isn't a male strip joint but actually all the gay bars have go-­go dancers that dance in underwear. I guess iCandy has the hottest staff. They even have a shower that the dancers dance in. They usually wear white and we all know what happens to white underwear when it gets wet. Sadly though, most of the guys that work there are straight, but you still want to sit on their faces anyway.

19.  What is the first name of the man you've had the best sex with in your city?

Jonathan

20.  What’s the best-kept secret about your city?

How beautiful parts of the city can really be. I enjoy walking around the city and some of the neighborhoods are actually pretty. Philadelphia is loaded with tons of history. From the architecture to the historical monuments.

For more information:

Around the Word in 80 Gays can be purchased at Amazon.

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Queer Dirty Laundry Anniversary

I did not know back on August 24, 2010 that I would create something that would change my life forever. I started the blog Queer Dirty Laundry on a whim. I had always liked to write, but mainly it was poetry and short stories. I had never thought about writing nonfiction before. I liked the idea of a blog because in a way, it became a weekly diary of what was going on in my life.

I had decided to write about the diverse group of gay men I hung out with on a weekly basis as well. This varied group of guys kept the blog interesting. I liked the idea of everyone being so different and everyone having a different set of morals (or lack thereof) and beliefs. We all viewed relationships and sex differently and each of us had our experiences in the gay scene.

The idea for the blog hit me one night when a friend came up to me and said, “You need to write this stuff down, it’s funny.” I never thought anyone would actually want to read it. I started to write for myself. I wanted to get my opinions and views out there and to see if perhaps there were like-minded individuals such as myself among the world.

Creating the characters was easy, because they are real people. I just changed their names (some of them). I took the main people in my life and wrote about what was going on. I knew readers would be able to identify with someone in each post.

There is me, the hopeless romantic with strong morals on what is right and wrong in the gay world. I just want what any normal straight couple has.
Kevin who is the lovable best friend and who occasionally gets himself into mischief by making bad decisions. He is loyal and hilarious. The type of person you have to have in your corner.
Bobby who is the charming adorable dating machine just trying to find his perfect match. You have to kiss many frogs to find your prince. Through all the difficulties, he never loses hope that his Prince Charming is out there somewhere.
There is Benjamin who has not met a cock he did not like although he prefers black, Latin or mixed the best. You cannot help but love him though despite his promiscuous behavior.
Knockers our sassy gorgeous friend from Philadelphia who does not give a shit what people think about him. He’s sometimes harsh, but always speaks the truth.
Drew who is just a guy’s guy with an old soul discovering the gay world. He has a heart of gold hidden under a tough exterior.

Let’s not forget all the Fag Hags and Fruit Flies that love and support us like jockstraps.
The list of characters I have written about goes on and on. There’s a little bit of these characters in all of us. Who has been your favorite Queer Dirty Laundry character the past three years?

In the end, I have learned a lot writing about all these people. I am thankful for all the people I have in my life. Queer Dirty Laundry was not about sharing everyone’s dirty little secrets with the world, it was about sharing their lives with the world and I can’t wait to see how it ends…

My All Time Favorite Blog Posts:
10. Relationship Karma
9. The Unbirthdays (Gays in Wonderland)
8. Dating Profile Pet Peeves
7. Like A Virgin
6. Sinful
5. Warning Labels
4. The Deal Breakers
3. “I’m Naked Y’all!”
2. 4 Gay Guys, 3 Str8 Girls & a Beach House Trilogy
1. Connected 

4 Gay Guys, 3 Str8 Girls & A Beach House Part 3

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